Friday, February 26, 2010
I posted a copy of this discussion over @ my orginal blog back on 22 June 2008. I thought it would provide an illuminating example of how women think-a necessity for any MGHOW.
Author: al anon
Time: June 22, 2008 - 10:32 am
Women in their late 20s/early 30s have to learn to be "nice" and develop great personalities because the aloof/angry-at-the world/depressive mentality many have - and many have used successfully in the past doesn't work as well with the guys who are "left" so to speak.
Being nice goes a lot further than I think women understand. They see being bitchy and elusive when you are young and nubile and then try to replicate it when the dating pool has already weeded out the guys who fall for that shit (plus as women age they lose a lot of their sexual capital and guys just won't put up with it anymore.)
Naw, they don't need to learn THAT, Man! Why if women are nice to their men, or even entertain the mere THOUGHT of doing so, why they're letting down the Sisterhood! That would be weak; that would be giving in to her 'oppressor', for crying out loud! They can't be NICE to no stinkin' man now; why, he might take advantage of her...
That, and these chicks, when they were young, hot, desirable, and carrying less baggage than a luggage factory were 'in demand'; they were wanted, big time, so they were drunk with their power. They didn't have to be nice, since there were 100 guys lining up to replace the one she just blew off. They got USED to having men come down the tracks like rush hour trains, and they figured that this would continue forever. Silly girls...
Al anon is also right that, once men reach a certain point, then they're no longer willing to PUT UP with a woman's crap. Once men reach a certain point, they are no longer slaves to their hormones, so they're no longer willing to anything or put up with anything just to get some nookie. I find that the older I get, the less willing I am to put up with a woman's crap. Shoot, if I even THINK a woman will play head games, I'm G-O-N-E...
So yeah. Here's a rough approximation of a random panicked phone call I got from a close female friend last week to give you a peek into the mindset of late 20s female...
her -I've been crying all night, so and so is getting married. This is horrible. My life is OVER, I have nothing now.
me -Thats great, he's such a good dude. Who is he marrying?
her - some pasty-white 25-year old blond grad student bimbo bitch with bad ears.
me - Wait...Why aren't you happy for him? He was like your best friend in law school.
her - Because I loved him and now I can't have him. Everyone is getting married and no one wants to marry me.
Yeah, Darlin', your best friend is marrying someone else! Whose FAULT is that?!
me - Love him? You guys live five minutes from each other and never hang out. And aren't you dating some other dude?
her - I don't really want to talk about that.
Al anon, my friend, the LAST thing this stupid bitch wanted was to be confused with the facts! She didn't want to talk about HER role in losing a good man now. Why, that would mean she'd have to accept RESPONSIBILITY for herself and her actions! AW can't have that now...
me - I don't know, maybe he assumed since you are dating other people that you weren't interested in him.
Dude, you just HAD to point out the obvious, didn't you? Leave it to a MAN to look at things logically, and to remind this little dearie of the facts...
her - You are a boy, you don't understand. I should have never called you. You don't get it, I can't just be available and hang around him, he'll never like me then. I don't want to look too forward you know. I don't want to be rejected.
Darlin', you didn't waste ANY time dispensing the insults or shaming language, did you?! And I just LOVE the bullshit answer you give to his obvious, yet pointed question...
me - Too forward? Didn't you claim he only moved down here to be closer to you?
her - I don't know, maybe...he was going for his MBA.
Trying to deny past, narcissistic statements, my dear?
me - And moved five minutes away from you. When was the last time you saw him?
her - I don't know, December maybe. We hung out more in the fall. I'm busy, he's busy.
Ah, excuses, excuses. You know what they say: excuses are like anuses; everyone has one, and they ALL stink...
me - Why didn't something happen between you two?
her - He tried, two or three times invited me back to his place and such but I never went. I thought he'd think I was being a slut.
Ah, now we have a GLIMMER of truth trying to break through the clouds of your lies & deception, my dear! Now the truth is starting to come out...
me - We all just assumed you two were sleeping together in law school. You two were always together. He doesn't think you are a slut, he thinks you are the world's biggest prude and tease and after getting shot down he found someone else.
Ding, ding, ding, ding! We have a winner! Of COURSE your buddy thought this chick was a prude and tease; she led him to think she was interested, then blew off your friend when he ACTED on the false signals this bitch sent out. Of COURSE he found someone else; he wanted a gal who wanted HIM-duh!
her - He stopped calling me too, the phone works both ways.
Oh, I just LOVE how you try deflecting responisibilty, Darlin'; I just love how you try saying, "It's not all my fault-waaahhhh!" How freakin' TYPICAL...
me - You shot him down sexually, you think he's gonna be hanging around?
Dude, you're being a patriarchal oppressor; you're being LOGICAL, for goodness sake!
her - We used to talk ALL the time. ALL the time. He was my SOUL MATE.
Too bad you didn't TREAT him like your soul mate, my dear...
me - He wanted to have sex with you, when you took that off the table he took that talk to someone or somewhere it could actually lead to something.
Dude, you keep pointing out the obvious! When are you going to learn that chicks do NOT want to be confused with logic, the facts, or the truth-ESPECIALLY if it makes them look bad?!
her - But we were like EPIC friends, I've never known anyone, ANYONE in the world who understood me like he did. Or at least tried to understand me like he did.
me - Maybe thats it, maybe he did finally understand you and knew he had to move on. I've been there...
Yeah, your buddy, Mr. NG understood that this stupid bitch didn't want him, so he went and found someone who DID-what a concept! Imagine that, a man finding a woman who actually WANTS him...
her - shut up. You are such an idiot. I suppose I could have called him back more. But I'm busy. And I have canceled plans with him three or four times in the past month or so.
me - So you never called him, canceled plans with him regularly, and shot down his sexual advances, I'm happy for him. He's too nice to date you. He should have moved on long ago.
So, this stupid, clueless bitch blew off Mr. NG REPEATEDLY, shot down his advances, etc., and yet she STILL expects him to be pining away for her?! COME ON!!
her - I hate you.
me - Yeah I know whatever, you have NO REASON to be upset. Really no reason.
her - He LIKED Me! Not some other bitch.
Yeah, but your ACTIONS told him that his love for you was UNWANTED; you told him, via your actions that you were not INTERESTED-duh!
me - Guys aren't that complicated. You are secretly dating someone else, never call him, cancel plans, haven't hung out with him in 6 months and yet you are shocked and crying on the phone with me about your best friend getting married. I can't help you with that. It doesn't compute.
What can I POSSIBLY add to that?! Al anon, you NAILED it, brother! Are you sure you haven't been hanging around MRA/MGTOW sites & blogs?
(sorry for the length but after perusing this thread I just had to share.)
Thanks for sharing with us, al anon...
I made this post on my original blog, MarkyMarks Thoughts on Various Issues, back in August of 2007. I thought it would be good material for the MGTOW Survival Guide, so here it is...
On the Mancoat forum, we recently had a poll as to whether or not men deserve their fate should they marry in the USA, or anywhere else in the Anglosphere. My answer was yes, and I shall give my reasons in the following paragraphs.
I voted option #2, leaning more to a 'yes' than a 'no'. Why? Because, despite all the brainwashing and stuff, the evidence is out there; though it may not be easy to see, it is out there. While one may be a victim of brainwashing, one doesn't have to REMAIN a victim of brainwashing-duh! There is the option of checking things out for yourself, rather than accepting things at face value. So, what evidence is there that marriage is a shit deal for men? What evidence is there to the contrary would be a better question to ask!
Exhibit A is the new Verizon radio commercial; I am so SICK & TIRED of it already! The commercial opens up with some black skank upbraiding her husband for buying some electronic device. Hubby tries to placate her, saying, 'baby', and she says, "Don't you baby me!" You then hear a noise which sounds like a slamming door (evidently him being refused entry into HIS house!), while he says, "It's VIOS!" Right there, in that commercial, you have the archetype for modern marriage. How many other commercials show the wife busting her husband's balls, hmmm? If we had a dollar for every one of them, we could all retire to Mexico, and bang hot Latina babes in between surf sessions-yes! Sorry, I digress...
Exhibit B are the married men EVERY single guy knows. He sees their beaten down, tired look; he hears their tales of woe; he knows what life they live. He's seen & heard enough married men in his life time to know what's going on. Ergo, he knows what he's signing up for if he gets married.
Exhibit C would be any women the man works with. You want to know what REALLY turned me off to women? Do you know what really cooled my desire and ardor for them? It was having the opportunity to observe them up close & personal while they weren't trying to impress me or attract me; I saw them when they were NOT using their charms. It reminded me of those who study animals in the wild while being amongst them, a la 'Wild Kingdom'. Of course, I'm referring to the old 'Wild Kingdom' with Marlin Perkins-now I'm betraying my age! Anyway, I'd hear my female colleagues mistreat their men on the phone, stuff like that. I'd also hear the women regale each other with how they mistreated the men in their lives, playing a game of 'oneupswomanship'. I found it disgusting and revolting...
Exhibit D would be popular talk show hosts, and how they talk of putting their balls in their wives' purses. I used to listen to "Mike & Mike in the Morning" on ESPN radio; I no longer do, because I don't have the time anymore, because I'm getting ready for work; I have to shave, the cat needs to be fed, as does her owner, etc. Anyway, I used to enjoy listening to them, and Mike Greenberg said, "Every married man knows that you cut off your balls, and put them in your wife's purse." That's a direct quote! I've heard other male hosts say stuff like this.
Sorry, but I don't work that way; I don't think any real man does. Where do I stand on this? Tony Montana (Al Pacino's character in 'Scarface') said it best: "In this world, all I have is my balls and my word, and I don't break 'em for no one."
Exhibit E would be for those men who are either into classic cars, motorcycles, boats, etc. When I had my first car, a classic Chevy, I had guys come up to me ALL THE TIME telling me about the classic car they'd once owned, but had sold to make Wifey happy. I've experienced the same thing on my W650. That bike, though it's a Y2K model, is a DEAD RINGER for the old T-120 Bonnevilles of the late 1960s; from the braced chrome fenders, wire wheels, rubber fork gaiters, tank knee pads, and peashooter mufflers, folks mistake it for a classic Bonnie all the time, because it has all the same styling cues. This gets guys to come up to you, such as the one who did last summer, that pathetic married wretch who said his riding days were over.
I remember that day well. I was out & about on my W650, enjoying a beautiful summer day! I was exploring parts of South Jersey when I decided to check out Mystic Island, a place I had never been to. There I was, taking a breather while enjoying a view of southern Barnegat Bay. While I'm enjoying my view, this Honda Odyssey minivan pulled up; the man, his wife, a female relative/friend of hers, and some kids spill out of it. The wife, female companion, and kids walk on the little beach, while the man came up to me wanting to talk to me about my bike .He told me about the old bike he used to have, and he asked about mine. I was only too happy to talk to him about my bike, of course. He seemed to want my bike or one like it.
I proceeded to tell this guy that, while the W650 was no longer available, he could get a bike like it. I told him about the new Triumph, and how they've come back, and how they're building great bikes now. One of them is the new Bonneville, an 800cc (now all new Bonnies are 865cc) parallel twin that looked like my W650, but was more powerful, practical, and still available. I then said that it could be had for about $8k, new-a great deal on a new bike. He said-and I'll never, ever forget this-"Oh no, my riding days are over." What?! My riding days won't be over until I SAY they're over! I knew exactly what he was saying, though; he was saying that, having been thoroughly emasculated by Wifey, he could no longer ride, or do anything else that HE wanted and/or enjoyed.
I then proceeded to say (loudly so that Wifey could easily hear me) that I didn't have a wife, so I could & would enjoy my motorcycles whenever I damn well felt like it, or something like to that effect. Hubby shuffled away in that pathetic way that only married men can, our conversation over. Wifey, her companion, and the children proceeded to walk away from me down the beach, and they had this PISSED OFF air as they did-yes! That was exactly what I wanted; I wanted that bitch to know that here is one man who refuses to be a tool in the Matriarchy. I'm sure that Hubby got his ass chewed though; after all, Wifey doesn't want him getting any silly ideas-ideas such as he is a person; he has rights; his thoughts, desires, dreams, etc. matter; and that he, too, can and should do stuff that HE likes and enjoys, not just her. Between owning a classic car in my youth and having a classically styled bike now, I've had PLENTY of reminders of what married men give up. I and an increasing number of my brothers are saying, "Uh, no thanks..."
Exhibit F would be the divorced guys every man in America knows. Every man in this country knows a man who got SCREWED in divorce court-every man! I know a couple myself. There used to be one who lived across the street from me. I'll call him Darrell. Anyway, his wife didn't want to fix their marriage, so she bailed. Unfortunately, he had a kid, so he has child support to pay. Darrell lived in a room above a bar. He worked multiple jobs. His teeth were rotting, because he couldn't afford to get the dental work done. He drove a junker of a car-when he was finally able to get one, that is. Though he's not perfect (no human is, or ever has been, with the exception of Jesus Christ), Darrell seemed to be a good, decent, upbeat guy who had a nice word for everyone in town. Almost every man in a America knows Darrell, or someone like him, so he can see for himself that he can be screwed over through no fault of his own...
Exhibit G would consist of all the famous guys who are undergoing divorce. I'm talking about Paul McCartney, Michael Jordan, Matt LeBlanc, Michael Strahan, and Alec Baldwin to name just a few. Their divorces and fallout thereof have been made QUITE public! If Paul McCartney and Michael Jordan can get cleaned out, then NO MAN IS SAFE. Since I'm from NJ, I've heard PLENTY about Michael Strahan, star defensive end for the NY Giants. He was ordered hand over more than HALF of his $15 Million in assets-ouch! Strahan also has an obscene amount of child support to pay out every month; thanks to the Bradley Amendment, his payments CANNOT be reduced at any time, nor can they be reduced for any reason. This is in spite of the fact that his playing days will soon be over...
In closing, the evidence is out there. I don't care how much biology gets in the way; I don't care how much damage brainwashing does, either. If a man will simply OPEN HIS EYES, he can easily see what's happening. God gave us eyes, ears, and a brain for a reason; it's up to each man to use HIS, and avoid marriage in America-end of story. The evidence is there; if you still get married, then you deserve whatever happens to you-end of story.
Monday, February 22, 2010
Last year, Chrisvet on Mancoat found this blast from the past-1943 to be exact. I thought that this would be helpful to any MGHOW who has to either work with women, or supervise them. Therefore, it's going to be part of the MGTOW Survival Guide.
eleven tips on getting more efficiency out of women employees
by L.H. Sanders | March 7, 2005
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Friday, February 19, 2010
Nippon started a thread about this on Mancoat. He posted this quiz designed to help guys figure out if they're with a crazy bitch. This is GOOD stuff! You can visit Dr. Palmatier's blog here.
This isn’t a rhetorical question. If you’ve asked yourself more than once, “Is my girlfriend/wife/fiancee a crazy bitch?” as a clinical psychologist, I’m here to tell you the answer is, “Yes. Diagnostically speaking, she may very well be a crazy bitch.“
A crazy bitch insidiously makes you feel like the unstable, angry person. You soon doubt your interpretation of events and experiences. In psychological circles, this type of woman is said to suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) or a combination of the two. Actually, the ones who really suffer are the people who come into contact with the Borderline or Narcissist.
Here’s a quiz to find out if you’re involved with one of these women:
- Does she fly into rages without warning over relatively trivial matters like a web page loading too slowly?
- Are you always the scapegoat/bad guy whenever she’s frustrated, disappointed or just plain bored?
- Do her friends (that is, if she has any) describe her as a “drama queen?”
- Does she describe herself as a drama queen? If so, congrats. You found one with a modicum of self-awareness.
- Is her lipstick a little too red? Is it applied like theater makeup and a tad crooked?
- Did sex begin with an earth shattering bang and fizzle into infrequent, transactional and conditional sex?
- Is she a black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinker?
- Do you lie to your family, friends and colleagues about what goes on at home?
- Do you find yourself making excuses to your family, friends and colleagues for her inexcusable behavior?
- Do you find yourself walking on eggshells around her?
- Does she hate your friends and family and become angry or tearful when you spend time with them?
- Is she pathologically jealous?
- Does she project her feelings onto you? For example, she’s yelling and raging and then accuses you of being angry. WTF?
- Does focus solely on her emotional experience while exhibiting little or no empathy for yours?
- Have you distanced yourself from friends and family because of your relationship?
- Does she place you on a pedestal one day only to tear you down the next day? “I’ve never known anyone like you before. You’re so wonderful!” Next day: “You’re the devil! You’re the most selfish bastard I’ve ever met! You don’t love me!”
- Did she change her identity after she landed you? For example, when you first met her she was a sexy, adventurous, sweet ballbuster; now, she’s afraid of her own shadow, has no outside interests and goes ballistic if she has to do anything without you.
- Does she put you into “no win” situations in which nothing you do is good enough and you’re guaranteed to fail?
- Does she exhibit stalker behaviors? This usually occurs during the courtship phase or when she senses you’re about to make a break for it. For instance: Calling and hanging up? Calling over and over and over until you answer the phone? Does she wait outside your home, uninvited, until you arrive? Does she show up at places she know you’ll be, also uninvited? Has she tried to get close to your friends in inappropriate ways?
If you answered “yes” to more than two of these questions, you may be involved with a Borderline or a Narcissist. You’re not alone. They’re everywhere.
Most of the men who ended up in my therapy office were there because they were experiencing stress, depression or anxiety as a result from being in an emotionally abusive relationship with a Borderline or a Narcissist. Ironically, most of the time they were shamed and pathologized into seeking counseling by these women. Never mind that most of the symptoms my male patients experienced were a direct result of being in a relationship with a BPD or NPD.
If you think you may be involved with a Borderline or a Narcissist, good luck. They’re typically treatment resistant and they never really get any better. If you choose to stay in relationship with these women, I strongly recommend you educate yourself about the disorders and learn some basic behavioral management skills.
By: Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
Seems that Dr. Palmatier just listed TYPICAL female behaviors! Actually, they're sick, twisted behaviors; unfortunately, they're becoming normal, because women think that they can get away with them. I'm going to put in a link to Dr. Palmatier's blog. Like Dr. Helen, this is one woman who GETS it, big time...
Back on 27 March 09, I ran this post, "A Moment of Clarity", at my original blog, MarkyMark's Thoughts. These are truths that belong in the MGTOW Survival Guide too. It features the video you're about to see. Why are you running it again? This time, I want to ANALYZE what that commercial means to us men; there are a lot of truths in that commercial, and I'd like to share them with you. Enjoy...
So, what does this commercial teach us? What hidden truths does it contain? I'm glad you asked, because I'm about to tell you...
One, it shows women before you marry them. It shows how their beauty and hot body are but a brief illusion; it shows how women are but illusions themselves. Notice how beautiful she is? Notice the bountiful breasts and the wondrously displayed cleavage thereof? You notice how enticing she looked when she flashed that beautiful smile of hers, while cocking her head in that coquettish way? As Christopher in Oregon has said and bears repeating, women's beauty and charms are an illusion; they are a dirty trick played by Mother Nature to get us to do something PROFOUNDLY against our best interests: breed with a woman and marry her. That's ALL it is, guys.
The second part of the commercial that I'd like to analyze is when the guy comes to his senses after he drinks his water; he has a spooky, yet accurate vision of the future that awaits him should he save the damsel in distress, and be taken in by her charms. He sees what marrying the damsel would entail, and it rightfully freaks him out.
Firstly, married life will SUCK! Secondly, the lovely, little lady isn't so lovely anymore after she's dropped a couple of womb turds. Thirdly, we get a glimpse of his mother in law and what HIS WIFE will look like when older. Finally, your life will NOT be your own, Fellas-not if you get married. Let's examine all but the first point one by one, shall we? After all, the fact that married life sucks goes without saying, amen?
The lovely, little lady who's got you weak at the knees won't always be so lovely; she won't always be so hot, Fellas. Look at when the commercial goes inside the mobile home. We see our former damsel in distress in a yucky, green gown. We see that she's pregnant with yet ANOTHER womb turd in addition to the three or four that the couple already has! Her hair is sloppily put up; it's not hanging down and framing her formerly lovely face. The little lady has clearly lost her youthful glow.
We then see our hero's mother in law come out of the bathroom as the toilet flushes-what lovely imagery! Anyway, the MIL is very instructive. Why? Because that's what our former damsel in distress will look like in thirty years time. It's been said that, if you want to know how your woman will age, just look at her mother; how true it is. What do we see when looking at the MIL? We see a fat, wrinkled up, old hag! We see someone who's face has wrinkled. We see someone whose hair is flat in color; there's no luster there like the damsel in distress had while hanging from the tree branch. Finally, those big, luscious breasts that the damsel in distress had will be sagging to the floor when she gets older-yuck!
Last, but definitely not least, this commercial teaches us men that we CAN override our instincts! We can override our desire for woman. We can override our desire to save and protect them; we can override our chivalrous instincts. We can override our sex drive, which is what gets us entangled with women in the first place. This commercial teaches us that, rather than think with the little head, we can think with the big head. If we think with the big head, we'll see that women and relationships therewith are not worth the heartache and trouble that they bring into our lives; we'll see that we're better off living as we please-on OUR terms, thank you very much.
Finally, we see that, should we be dumb enough to get married, that our lives will not be our own; whatever freedom we had before will be gone. Look at our hero. Before marriage, he was happy, single, and carefree, riding about the plains on his horse withersoever he went. After marriage, he's stuck with the woman and the womb turds; he is a caged, emasculated shadow of his former self. THAT is what you can look forward to when you get married, Fellas.
In closing, this video is very, very instructive. It's instructive on women's charms, and how they're an illusion. It shows us what the little lady will morph into; we see both near and long term what she'll become. We see that we can override our instincts, and do what's best for OURSELVES. Finally, we see the truth that we all know: to wit, marriage sucks! I didn't have to tell my boys that though, huh? Have a good night now, and I'll catch you on the flip side...
A classic, must read piece for men is Roissy's Sixteen Commandments of Poon. While I'm not a big fan of Roissy's, he offers some valuable insights into the female psyche, insights that no one else is offering-especially in the lamestream media! This is information that every man should have; this is information that SHOULD be disseminated in the MSM. Unfortunately, it's not featured in the MSM, because they're too busy pushing their PC garbage.
Roissy shows us how women REALLY think and act when they're totally unrestrained as they are today. This classic post of his is MUST READ MATERIAL for men trying to navigate today's dating and relationship jungle. Guys, did you ever wonder if it was you? Well, it's not. This post belongs in the MGTOW Survival Guide. Here's Roissy's Sixteen Commandments of Poon, a classic for MGTOW if there ever was one...
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Over at False Rape Society, the guys did an EXCELLENT post on avoiding false rape charges. I'm rerunning it here, because this is a MUST READ for MGTOW everywhere. This is an essential part of a MGHOW's survival in an increasingly hostile world.
How to Avoid a False Rape Charge
False rape claims are a reality, and sometimes there is nothing an innocent man or boy can do to prevent one from being lodged against him. Sometimes he is just in the wrong place at the wrong time. But a significant number of false rape claims can be avoided by exercising caution and avoiding situations where they are more likely to occur. Unlike rape, where political correctness gone mad tells us we should not put any burden on our daughters to avoid situations where rape is more likely to occur (that is called "victim blaming"), it would be unfortunate if we similarly hesitated to urge our sons to minimize the risk of false rape claims as a matter of principle. The long-term damage from a false rape claim is potentially so enormous that every reasonable effort should be taken to avoid it. Make no mistake, the onus for a false rape claim is on the false accuser, just as the onus for rape is on the rapist. But urging our young people to put themselves in harm's way just to make a politcal point is something no sane parent should ever do. It is no different from a parent telling a teenage son to avoid a bad neighborhood after dark.
Having closely studied false rape claims for a considerable period of time, I have compiled a short list of certain situations where false rape claims are more likely to occur, in no particular order of prevalence:
▲Casual hook-ups or one night stands involving alcohol. Asking the police or a jury to sort out what happened afterwards based on a "he said/she said" account puts a tremendous burden on our law enforcement and judicial apparatuses. But make no mistake: such situations are a recipe for disaster. Young men looking to "score" in that situation need to understand that women experience much greater after-the-fact regret than men do. Sometimes feelings of regret are translated into feelings of "being used," and sometimes feelings of "being used" are misinterpreted as "rape." Unfortunately, it is the politically correct thing to urge young women to party like the guys -- without bothering to tell them about the regret asymmetry that separates the genders.
▲Situations where the woman has motivation to deny sex with you was consensual. It is difficult to overestimate this one. In Prof. Kanin's first landmark false rape study, he found that the motive to cover up a sudden illicit encounter was the primary motivation for false rape claims. Situations to avoid: if the woman has a husband or a boyfriend, even if you think they are estranged; if the woman doesn't want her parents to know she is serious about you -- perhaps because she is too young or you are not "acceptable" to them; or if the woman is embarrassed to let her friends know she is serious about you. In each of these situations, if the woman doesn't want someone important to her to know she had sex with you, you are at risk of a false rape claim.
▲Group sex where there was one woman and multiple guys. This one is closely related to the previous point. First, we would be dishonest if we failed to acknowledge that gang rape is a reality. But, second, there's another reality that many people, especially many older people, do not care to admit occurs: our "hook-up" culture has spawned a trend where young women engage in consensual group sex activities with young men. Where there is just one young woman and multiple guys, this is a recipe for a false rape claim. Most sane young women will regret that encounter after-the-fact and will worry that at least one of the young men will "brag" about it, destroying what's left of her reputation. The fear of "slut shaming," as the feminists call it, seems to spawn off-the-charts regret, and that is a false rape claim waiting to happen.
▲Liars lose. If a woman claims you raped her, you are more likely to be charged if the police find you lied to the woman or to the police about even a matter that isn't crucial.
▲Being a school teacher, a police officer, an ambulance paramedic, or a cab driver. It would be a terrible thing if men stayed away from law enforcement or from being cab drivers the way men avoid the teaching profession due to fears about false rape claims. The reality is that men in any of these professions need to be especially vigilant. Police officers are at risk because some women charged with crimes lie about rape out of revenge or to claim that the charges were trumped up. Ambulance paramedics and cab drivers are sometimes targeted by delusional women or women looking for an excuse for some indiscretion.
▲Nasty break-ups. This one could be the most common situation for false rape claims. Divorce and custody disputes spawn false rape claims in order for the woman to gain the upper hand in the dispute. Spurned ex-lovers sometimes use false rape claims as a tool of revenge.
▲Older male, much younger female. A false rape claim is less plausible when it involves peers around the same age because the likelihood of a consensual relationship is greater. When a girl accuses a middle-aged man of rape, there is no possibility of legal consent, and actual consent is unlikely. Moreover, the allegation is generally viewed as so terribly loathsome that the mantra "guilty until proven innocent" is truly a reality for this one.
▲Teen boy, older woman. Sometimes women who statutorily rape teen boys will twice victimize them by falsely accusing them of rape. Such tactic has facial plausibility, given the male-as-predator stereotype, not to mention the relative naivette and exploding hormones of teen boys. It is especially disturbing that a woman would, as the cliche goes, throw her callow lover under the bus in order to save herself.
And I most certainly missed some -- please let me know if you can think of any others, and we'll add them to the list.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Here's the inaugural post of the MGTOW Survival Guide! I'm kicking this off with The Rough Guide to Single Moms by Zenking...
Look for more soon!